Discovering what makes you tick or finding what you’re made of is much like a flower coming up between the cracks in the concrete. It needs to have the right elements in order to bloom. Nature has an intuition about itself knowing just where to go and what to do to make that happen.

If you’re reading this, you already have what it takes to be successful and fulfilled in life. In seeking out answers you’ve proven that you’re ahead of the majority of people who just let life “happen to them.”

Taking you one step further on your journey of personal development, I have a brief activity for you to discover more about yourself and what drives you.

Have you ever felt like there was something blocking your mind preventing you from truly understanding what you’re here for? That is, what would ultimately fulfill you?

If so, here’s how that happens…

Whether you consciously realize it or not, there are thousands of beliefs about yourself and the world that you’ve never really considered. They’ve become so much a part of you that you can’t identify them, much less, decide which ones are really yours. These are a result of your past experiences especially those to which you’ve had an emotional connection. You’ve learned things that have kept you safe, sane and secure in your world.

Many of these are helpful…such as knowing when something is too hot to handle, looking right and left before crossing a street, making sure foods are cooked to the right temperature, etc.

Others, however, have sabotaged you so that you have been too fearful, too dutiful, too doubtful, and so on. We unconsciously cling to these fears because to do otherwise would be out of our range of comfortability. And until we experience something else, we don’t know what to compare them.

For example, if you were raised in a household where the “money talk” went something like this: “Don’t use so much _____________, money doesn’t grow on trees, you know!” Or even more insidious was the notion that money is the root of all evil. Or perhaps you grew up with people believing that your family’s way is the ONLY way! Hard to beat that one!

So the first step to your happiness/fulfillment/success/contentment, however you want to define it…is figuring out what drives you. This then leads you to determining what works for you and what doesn’t.  Knowing that leaving it to chance doesn’t work, begin thinking and feeling (very important) as if you already have the ability…because you do!

You have the power inside you to start a process that attracts what you need and desire.

It all begins with your present state of mind.

Here is short exercise to get started. Like a regular auto checkup I suggest doing this regularly in order to keep you fresh.

Uncovering Some Truisms about Yourself

  1. List 5 activities you wish you could do more often.
  2. List 5 characteristics about the person you’d like to become.
  3. List 3-5 emotions you’d like to feel on a regular basis.
  4. Connect these emotion/s to what you listed in 1 & 2. 

You may want to consider material things, talents you’d like to enhance, goals or pursuits you’ve had on the back burner, relationships you’d like to grow including those with yourself and your spiritual connection.


  1. I’d wish I could give more to my family. I wish I could travel more. I want to own my own home. I’d like to have more money in order to have more choices. I’d like to enjoy my work more.
  2. To have more energy. Be more prompt. Be known as an expert in my field. Be the “go to” person. Know more about technology.
  3. Feel more joy, serenity, confidence, euphoria, and hopeful.
  4. Joy in my some areas of family, confidence in having more money, hopeful that I’ll travel more, confidence that I am recognized as an expert in my field and hopeful to give more to my family.


Writing this down is the first step in leading a purposeful life. It’s a life that’s conscious of knowing your talents, gifts, and strengths. It’s a life of putting them to good use!

Secondly, feel the emotions that you attach to what you want in life. For sake of comparison, think of a time when you had to go to an event that you really didn’t want to attend. Next, remember something that you absolutely couldn’t wait to do. Feel the difference? You remember the ease when getting ready for the event vs. the dread of the other one.

This is the same when it comes to who you are and what you want in life. When connecting to your authenticity, things become easier. The struggle has been taken out of the equation!

Share this with others and if you have time, drop me a note at counsel@lindamccarrin.com and let me know what insights you received. I love hearing how others have improve their lives!

Warm regards,